Top 7 mistakes men should NEVER make during sex

While most men seem to be educated through porn, it is time to let them know what mistakes they should never make with women who live outside the TV/flat screen… OK, disregard that last sentence; it was an easy blow. If you made some mistakes on this list, don’t sweat, just read and learn. I’m sure your woman will thank you for it tonight.

• MISTAKE #1: Dirty talk

Fact: On a scale of 1-10, women feel talking dirty is a 7 in terms of importance during sex. But don’t exaggerate!

Don’t make it too dirty. We don’t want to hear ‘take it take it take it’ or ‘who’s pussy is this’. We certainly don’t want to hear the ‘C’ word or the ‘B’ word. Nothing ruins a moment like having a guy shout out “whore!” in the middle of it. Find your balance; enough flattery, and a little bit of edge will work magic. All you need is the right amount of feel and the right raunchy vocabulary.

• MISTAKE #2: Screaming

As much as you want to scream “Hallelujah” Just. Don’t! You can make noise. We like noise. But keep your grunts lower than your woman’s moaning.

• MISTAKE #3: Sexual sadism

Having fantasies is very healthy and acting out fetishes like soft bondage, a little teasing, role play etc will definitely spice up your sex life. But NEVER ask your girlfriend if you can rape her or participate in other fantasies where you want to (simulate) inflict pain and humiliation for your sexual arousal. Porn usually portraits women to be submissive and I understand where men are coming from. But If pain, suffering and humiliation causes sexual arousal and pleasure, please seek help. Don’t ask us ladies to participate (unless SHE wants to!).

• MISTAKE #4: Skipping foreplay

If you think this mistake is often made by younger men, think again. Men who are in long-term relationships often have stopped putting in the required effort. Foreplay is something to enjoy and for some women it can even be more enjoyable then intercourse itself.

• MISTAKE #5: Thinking your package is all she needs

No, I’m not insulting your manhood. I’m just saying some women need extra stimulation to get to the big ‘O’. Talk to her about adding sex toys and vibrators into the bedroom. It can be exciting and fun and takes things to a whole new bedroom level.

• MISTAKE #6: Not asking her what she likes

Have you ever asked your girl what she likes? Unfortunately some women are a little scared to tell you, so it is up to you to ask. Asking your woman what she wants doesn’t have to be awkward. After all, sex should be fun, right?

• MISTAKE #7: Not knowing your way

No ’how to’ guide will ever teach you your way around your woman’s body. Get out there and find out what her hot zones are; her neck, her thighs… Keep in mind that not all girls are the same, so if you enter a new relationship, you will have to do it all over again.